Should Statements

Making "should" statements can be damaging to ourselves and others. These statements involve imposing unrealistic expectations on ourselves or others, often leading to feelings of guilt, disappointment, anger, and resentment. When we tell ourselves what we "should" do or feel, it can create a disconnect between our idealized expectations and our actual thoughts and behaviors. Similarly, applying "should" and "must" statements to others can lead to frustration and disappointment when they inevitably fail to meet our expectations.

Here are some examples of "should" statements with reframed versions that are more realistic:

These reframed statements aim to be more realistic, flexible, and compassionate, acknowledging that we're human and imperfect.